Jumping to Conclusions

This is one bad habit which few people have. First and foremost, I must admit that i have it.

A lot of us don't think about some things or rather don't sit down and analyze any problem before taking any decision or before speaking up. We often tend not to have any second thoughts and make a decision abruptly or maybe express our opinion bluntly.

It may be anywhere anyplace anytime.
For example: At work if there is a problem and one person is trying to solve it and after several attempts although he tried his best he is unsuccessful. Then some people may say 'He is useless... doesn't know anything' People don't consider the amount of hard work he's put in before making such statements. They just want results. Deadlines have to be met. No doubt. But these people will carefully watch what you are doing. If the person is successful in whatever he's doing, he climbs the ladder. If not then people start talking shit about him. The same person might have talent. He maybe able to solve or provide assistance in something else but not in the previous instance.

Similarly in our personal lives, we see many things. Lets take an example of a 30 year old unmarried male/female. There are many people who enjoy their single status and dont wanna get married. Some may have had a bad past. Some may have a genuine problem. Unfortunately few morons consider these people as losers without any direction in life.

Furthermore, when we make new friends or rather when we develop new contacts at a public gathering, we have a tendency to study the behaviour, likes/dislikes etc of the people we meet and on that basis, we strengthen the relationship. Little do we know what's in store for us. If you are in a business gathering people wud always be gud to you, coz they foresee Vitamin M in you.

There is a famous saying, "First Impression is the Last Impression" But is it true? Well the answer is maybe yes or maybe no. Don't jump to conclusions so soon.

Different People, Different Mindsets

In life, we come across many personalities.

Personally, there have been times where I've come across and met really very funny characters. Not only me, but I'm sure everyone does. Some people get wild easily, some like to speak up, some have a dirty habit of poking their nose in everything while some play the back-stabbing game.

It's a tough task to gel with everyone especially when your most common friend circle has people with different mindsets. You may say something, crack a joke, pull someone's leg. But then some people do not like it. Some may agree with you while some may not. Similarly, a leg pulling spree can be taken sportingly by a person. Unfortunately some people don't. They may forgive you, but will never forget you.

The major concern is "Ego", using the word "I" instead of "We". Using "I" while giving an opinion is absolutely fine, but some people use the word "I" in a very inappropriate manner, say for e.g. "I have decided that we will do this....." This is something that a person decides without involvement of others when you are in a group. And they don't like it when you point out mistakes to them. They are not open to criticism. Even if they invite suggestions, they are not fully convinced. This is what I feel is completely unfair. They get wild, back answer or have a grudge against people who point out the negative traits in them.

"Ego kills". I always tell few of my close mates. "The dustbin is the safest place to dump Ego. Do not carry it like an excess baggage.!"

There are people who are extremely talkative. They can go on and on. Irrespective of what people say or think. They won't change for anyone. There's one more category, the "Psssst, I'll tell you something... Don't tell anyone types" Ultimately you would realize that they have shared whatever they want to with almost everyone. One needs to be very careful with such people. They add fuel to the fire and run away at the crunch moments. There are also few who are very straight forward. If they feel that something isn't right, they would voice their opinion quickly.

Why am I talking abt this?? Coz I have loads of friends and I have a huge friend circle. I interact with many people. Everyone is different. No one is perfect. I'm not perfect either. Everyone's got some negative traits which cannot be changed by anyone. If it has to change, it will change as time passes by. Everyone has a different mindset. Different people have different mindsets.